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THE CANCER DOULA
Passionate About Supporting the "WHOLE" Person
I am a cancer doula, thriver, and motivator. I help cancer patients at ALL stages transform their mindset from fear and uncertainty to one of POWER and PURPOSE. I help my clients discover the power of their mindset and how to use it in a positive way to find and fuel their inner warrior. As a cancer thriver, I have the unique ability to say that I have walked in the shoes of cancer patients or some that are very similar. I am aware of the challenges faced by cancer patients that are not addressed in the medical field. I am aware of how hard it may be to find people who can relate to what you are going through. I am aware of and I have experienced the fear of cancer returning. I offer my clients the tools and opportunities to overcome their limiting beliefs and fears. I would love to help you get to the other side!
April 8, 2011, I received the dreadful call that I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Thankfully, it was on a Friday. I had so many questions that the nurse on the phone could not answer. All she could say was that her husband had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma a few years ago and now he is doing fine. I made it to the parking lot of TJ Maxx and I remember walking through the store looking for nothing in particular. Maybe I was looking for answers about the news that I had just received. While walking through the store, I remember replaying the conversation over and over in my mind. Wondering if I heard the person on the other end of the phone correctly. Wondering what I had done wrong to get this dreadful disease. Was it something that I ate? Was it some product that I used? Was it stress? Was it karma for something that I had done wrong in the past? What was it? Is this real and of course why me? I felt like I was floating through the store, feeling lost, confused and like my life was about to end. After walking through the entire store a few times I made it back to my car and slowly drove home wondering how I was supposed to share the news with the people that love me. A feeling of embarrassment came over me along with the feeling of emptiness. Was it time to prepare for the end? When I made it home I just burst into tears to the point where I could hardly breathe. I had to get it out. I had to have a talk with God. I asked him for the strength to tackle cancer head on, I asked him to heal me, I asked him to stay with me, and I asked him to assemble a team around me that the devil could not touch.
It was now time to call my mom and break the news to her. I heard silence on the end of the phone? I could tell that she had just as many questions as I did. All of a sudden, with authority, my mom said, “I am with you to the end baby girl. Everything is going to be alright.” After calling my siblings, I decided that I needed to get my mind ready to prepare for battle. I did not know exactly what was ahead of me, but I definitely knew that it was not going to be easy. I stayed in the house all weekend trying to muster up the strength, trying to empty my tank of fear, anger, worry, and uncertainty so that I had enough room to receive and fill up on good, optimistic energy. I had to get my mind right so that my body could follow and receive the healing that was coming my way. I had no idea if healing was for me. I just had the audacity to believe that what I asked for would be mine. I claimed it and fought for it.
It seems so long ago but on the other hand, I remember it like it was just yesterday. Some things that happen in our lives simply can’t be erased and for good reason. I am supposed to help others see and believe that they have a fighting chance, to help them prepare their mind for what is to come, to give them a rough draft of what the opponent may try to do to steal their spirit, to be that go-to person who will understand what they are going through and what they are feeling when there is no one else who understands. Ultimately, it is my job to give them everything that I did not have or know about at the time, but I was so fortunate to gain along the way.
MY PURPOSE FOUND ME!
“I’ve worked with Talaya for more than 6 years and am familiar with her cancer journey. I can still remember how nervous but determined she was at the time of her diagnosis. During her 6 months of chemotherapy, Talaya remained positive and poised beyond her years. In her follow-up visits, she has remained positive and keeps up to speed on issues associated with survivorship. I can’t think of a better person to offer support to those who are coping with a new diagnosis of cancer, going through treatment, or in the follow-up phase of disease.”
- Daniel M. Anderson, MD, MPH, Hematology/Oncology, 2017